Examine Your Excuses
About a month ago I was watching a YouTube live with an author / influencer who is a super positive guy, always looking to add an optimistic viewpoint and encourage people to pursue their passions. But for some reason on this occasion he said, “There’s no point in having a vision if you don’t have the finances to advance it.”
At first I was stunned. How could someone who is supposed to be helping us follow our dreams say something so elitist and dismissive? After a week I realized I wasn’t letting it go. Was he right? Is it stupid for me to even try with this blog if I can’t pay for Facebook advertising or one of those click funnel marketing package things?
Now, more than four weeks later, I see that I’ve turned his words into an excuse to stop doing the scary thing of writing this blog. I’ve become paralyzed and not written a thing until now. After all, if I don’t have the money to advance this into the stratosphere then there’s no point in doing it at all, right?
Wrong. So obviously wrong. And yet . . . subconsciously I’ve been really nervous about pursuing this blog and subconsciously I allowed his flippant words to let me off the hook of doing so. Let that sink in: I allowed his words to let me off the hook of doing something I’m nervous about doing. So where have I seen that pattern before? In my years long pursuit to quit drinking alcohol.
For two decades I had excuses up the wazoo for why now was never the right time to quit. I used the words of friends who swore I didn’t have a problem and I just needed to focus on moderation. I used family who let every mistake slide because they were too scared or sad to hurt my feelings. I used my own rationale about how I was just in a slump and needed a few extra drinks to take the edge off. Etc. Etc. Etc. And I wonder if you’ve noticed any similar patterns with your own excuses.
So here’s the thing.
Excuses = laziness, procrastination, unwillingness to step up and do the right thing, and a severe lack of integrity within ourselves.
Check in with your excuses. Notice them. Call them to the surface and examine them for accuracy. It’s OK to be scared about quitting drinking, but it’s incredibly important to understand why. Ask yourself honestly, what are you nervous about? What is it about quitting that feels scary? Then go back to what I talked about in my post from early May and figure out if it’s true or if it’s nonsense.
Not actively pursuing the creation of a positive sobriety tribe simply because I don’t currently have the finances to advance it is nonsense. That would result in nothing more than a disservice to you, my readers, and to myself. I love you. I can’t thank you enough for being here to read and listen to what I have to share. And I promise to do better by showing up regularly, facing my own fears and concerns, and not letting excuses slow me down.
Live in love 💛 and light 💡
P.S. That picture above was taken at Spanish Point along the Wild Atlantic Way in Ireland. The sky was grey almost every day for a month but it was still always beautiful there.